Quasi-Threesome

This story comes from a friend of mine who has been out on the town with me several times in the past.

"I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and he started talking to a girl who was sitting alone. I just was hanging back and relaxing because I was pretty tired. He gets things rolling, but she seems to be more into me, even though I'm not really contributing anything.

She invited both of us to go back to her place to hang out, which I didn't really think much of. One thing led to another and the three of us are in her bedroom and she's blowing me! I look over at my buddy and he's going down on her!!! Not even I would go down on a girl I just me in a bar! Anyhow, she finished me off and then I left the room. I found out later that my buddy couldn't get it up because he did a line of coke earlier!! WTF?! She also told him that she was more into me! Ouch!"

I remember many months ago when my friend told me this story. I couldn't believe it, but after some of my own exploits, nothing is too crazy. I personally would not get myself into a possible 1 girl + 2 guy threesome. I know it didn't fully manifest, but still. If my cock is out and another dude is in the room.......NO THANKS! I don't care how horny I am.

Patience

Sorry about the lack of updates everybody. Since I've decided not to talk about what's happening with my current situation (which is going fine, by the way), there hasn't been much to write about.

However, I have been speaking to a few of my single buddies, gathering stories and information to share with all of you. So, please be patient while I harvest some good entertainment for you.

Easy Decision

After talking to some friends, I have decided that I will make this tapestry blog of stories. It was a pretty easy decision. The last thing I would want is to be hurtful by writing about the intimate goings-on with the possible long-term relationship with this girl.

Thanks Alecia for your comment. It is exactly what a friend of mine said as well. (And yes, that Anonymous writer is a big pussy.....hehe)

Don't be sad, readers. There will be plenty of updates about my friends' exploits with my commentary on how they could have done something different or me giving a thumbs up. It'll be good, don't worry.

I was looking back on some of these posts and I have to admit, the change in me is pretty apparent. When this whole thing started, I wanted no relationships at all. I just was going from girl to girl, hoping to get more in the near future. Then the posts started to change. I was starting to complain about how lame that kind of life actually is. Some people like it, but the "gooey-centered-types" can't maintain it very long. However, this has opened my eyes on what kinds of girls are out there and what is it that I am actually looking for in this crazy life. Also, as Alecia pointed out in a comment, life rarely goes the way we expect it to.

All I have to say is that I haven't felt this way about a girl in a LONG time. Even my last few REAL relationships never had me feeling this way. I am very excited for the future.


Thanks again!!

Good Things...

First off, thanks to everyone for your "fuck the rules" mantra. I have to say that it definitely was the correct choice.

As promised, I went pumpkin carving with this girl I'm head over heels for. It was a REALLY good time. We went to grab some food before shopping for pumpkins at the local pumpkin patch. It was a little weird for me because I wasn't sure if this was a date or if it was just two friends hanging out, so I kept it cool and just treated it as the latter. Anyhow, we had a blast at my place, carving those bastards up and having some drinks.

After the carving festivities were done, we were hanging out in my room and things were extremely comfortable. Actually, the whole night was really comfortable. I decided that she wouldn't still be at my place at 1am if she wasn't interested, so I went in for a kiss and 3 1/2 hours later, we fell asleep. Nothing major happened, just "second base" stuff. I want to take things nice and easy because I genuinely feel something special with this one. That "intangible" that has been missing from all of the other relationships seems to be here with this great girl. I told her about how I felt the exact moment of seriously liking her when we were out last weekend at the pub/restaurant and she loved that. I can't say enough about how great this girl is. I did show off a little by displaying my great memory of little things we had talked about the last time we had hung out. She was very impressed. Hehe. We are getting together on Friday for another great time.

So, what do I do with this blog? Well, I can do a couple of things, so please let me know what you think.

I can make it an "experience" type of blog that chronicles the things that are going on in this relationship (if it continues). Or I can start writing the stories of my bachelor friends and make this more of a tapestry of "ass tapper" adventures. Believe me, there are a bunch that a few of my buddies would love to tell on here. I, of course, would still be the writer.

How do these ideas sound? Maybe a combination of the two? Or something else? Speak up!

Working it..........slowly

I'm sure many of you have been wondering what I've decided to do about this "crush" I have. Well, I decided to see what happens if I go for it. On Tuesday, I asked her to go out for a fun hang and play some games at a local bar, but she said she'll have to take a rain check. I figured, ok, that's alright. I'll throw out another offer and see what happens. So today I called and left a message, but she was working. She texted back and we had a lengthy "conversation" about different things, but I threw out the idea of maybe doing some pumpkin carving together. I can hear some of you laughing as I write this, but it is a perfect date situation. You go to a pumpkin patch, goof around, pick your pumpkins and then BAM....you're having a nice intimate evening of cutting the shit out of a a giant squash! She loved the idea, so we're going to do that next week. We're way excited about it. We'll see what happens.

On a different note, I have started talking to just random girls that AREN'T in the bar scene again. Today, one girl was working at a nearby mall and I noticed her glasses (I love girls with glasses....so fucking sexy!!!). Anyway, I went in and she asked if I needed help and I replied, "Actually, I just wanted to compliment you on your glasses. They look great on you." We talked a little, but I didn't ask for her number. I'll go in again and do a follow-up and see what's happening. If I go in remembering her name and stuff, it'll be points for me and then I'll ask her.

There was another girl today as well. I know, I'm busy. She was taking donations for some child rescue thing. I thought she was really cute, so I asked what this was and I listened to what she had to say. I felt generous, so I donated a couple bucks and talked to her some more. I asked her where she was from and how she got involved in this group...blah, blah, blah. I didn't ask for her number either, but I do have a number I can reach her at because I got a tax write-off receipt for donating. I think I'll drop her a call and just say how I thought she had a great personality/attitude (which she did) and then ask her out.

We'll see.

Uh-Oh

I am pretty fucking pissed at myself.

Yup, pretty......fucking.....pissed.


GOD FUCKING DAMNIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here is why:

Yesterday I carpooled to work with a female friend of mine. We decided that we'd hang out after work, which was around 11pm. So we went out to get some beers and some grub. We've known each other for only two months and there has been no dating at all. Not even a sign of interest from either side. I do find her extremely attractive, however.

So we are out having a good time at a local pub, talking and learning a lot about each other.........and then it hits me. IT MOTHERFUCKING HITS ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As I was looking across the table, I said to myself, "This girl is pretty amazing. I would love to seriously date her." sigh........FUCK!

It was the weirdest fucking thing. I'm sitting there one second, just talking, then out of nowhere, I felt it. That part of you that slants just a little to make you CRAZY about someone. How did I allow this to happen? WHAT THE HELL?

There are two strikes against the situation though. I don't live by many rules, but there are three big ones that I promised myself I'd never do:

1) Never date a friend's ex.

2) Never date a friend's sister.

3) Never date a co-worker.

She falls under numbers 2 and 3. When I dropped her off, we both said what a great time we had together and that we need to get together again. We've never hugged before, so I waited to see if she'd offer (she did). It was a tight, long, nice hug. In fact, it was longer than the "thanks for the ride and the fun hang" type of hug. I haven't revealed anything yet, but I am really upset at myself. Her brother is not one of my really GOOD friends, but we hang out together quite a bit. So he IS a friend. And the fact that we work together (not all of the time) is enough to make me want to nip this in the bud. I've been trying not to think about it, but I am failing miserably.

Right when I drove off from her place, I was screaming "FUCK" all the way home because I know that feeling. I know that revolting, violating, piece of shit, yet wonderful feeling.


Soft gooey center, indeed.

WTF?!

I was at a restaurant/bar in Hollywood last night where there were some extremely attractive women. I wasn't hunting per se, but I always have the antenna up none the less. I did notice, however, that these women were each with a certain "type" of guy. I am not sure if metro-sexual is the right term, but these guys definitely had a "feminine" slant to their look and their clothing. (I wouldn't be caught dead wearing a knitted scarf!!!!)

I also noticed this at a coffee place close to Hollywood a few weeks ago. I chalk it up to the area having all of these wannabe models/actors and such, but seriously....WHAT THE FUCK???!!!!

I am just going to keep being ME and ignore all of this "trendy/posh" BS.

To Dive, or Not to Dive

In my quest to find more "down to earth" people in this town, I'm finding myself going to some of the local dive bars. I have to admit, I love dive bars for a number of reasons:

1) Cheap drinks!!! Maker's Mark on the rocks is only $4-$5 at one of these baby's; versus the $9 you would blow on the same drink at a "trendy" bar.

2) People just being people. No need to flash it up when you are at one of these places. The people are real and generally quite friendly.

3) Real bartenders!!! These places have old-school bartenders who know what a RUSTY NAIL is! This is way better than the 21 year-old "hottie" bartender who has never heard of DRAMBUIE!!

Now aside from my love affair with these places, it raises the question: "Can you find a decent girl in a place like that?"

Yes and no. There are plenty of girls who want a cheap drink and to be able to go somewhere without worrying about getting all dolled-up. I will say, however, that most of the time the women in these places are not my style. They are very friendly and fun to talk to, but tend to be a bit long-in-the-tooth or haggered....take your pick. My friends and I have traded stories of hooking up with girls in dive bars before, but never have we found someone that we would consider girlfriend material.

Nevertheless, I have a couple dive bars in my arsenal now to augment my other hang-out choices. If anything, at least the drinks are cheap!

The "Out of the Blue"

When I started this new way of dating back in May, there was this one girl that I went out with a handful of times. We had a great time together and I explained to her that I don't want anything serious. She said she was cool with that, so things were fine. However, after about a week of some nice making out (it never got past first base), she became one of the "drop-offs" that I have mentioned.

Then yesterday, out of the blue, she texts me, saying that she was reminded of me and wanted to see what I was up to. I explained that I moved and she wants to come up and visit. It should be fun and I'll keep you all posted on what comes of it.