I just got off the phone with the former co-worker I have been going out with this past month. Unfortunately, I had to end it. You may recall that I was saying how we have fun together and get along great, but the spark just isn't there for me. So I called her and explained the situation. She was a bit sad, but understood. She also was glad that I told her now without dragging it out.
I have to admit, I feel pretty bad about it. I really had a good time with her. I kept giving it chances, but I found myself not even thinking about her when we weren't together. In fact, the most I have thought about her was these last 2 days, while I was thinking of how I would tell her all of this. That is a sure sign that I am just not feelin' it.
Oh well, onward and upward.
She has been mentioned in a few of these posts, but it has run its course. Interestingly, this is one of two girls in the last 6 months where I was the one ending things. Most of the girls just disappear or "drop-off".
Sigh....thus ends the tale of the former co-worker.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Monday, September 21, 2009
Games
I was out last night with my friend and we were hanging out in a pretty good beer/wine bar. After we were there for a while, I noticed that there was a group of three girls standing right by us. Now these girls seemed fun and they were attractive, but here is where their attitudes made them NOT fun and NOT attractive.
A fairly good-looking guy was sitting by them and they were totally flirting with him. The usual stuff girls do to flirt is touching, giggling, leaning in close....whatever. But here is the kicker: the guy was there with a date who seemed weirded out by these girls flirting with her man!
So, here is what I concluded from the situation. These girls, although nothing special, felt the need to flirt with this girl's man just to show they can take attention away from her and put it on themselves. Attention is the life-force for females. They need it to survive. They will do anything to get it and will always want more. This trio of girls actually made me think less of them for what they were doing. It was really disgusting. The guy was some jock-looking guy who probably didn't have much behind the eyeballs, so he was clueless while his girl was getting pissed.
One little nugget that involved me was when she got up to use the restroom, I asked her why those girls are all over her dude. She pressed up against me, grabbed my ass and said, "That just means I can rub up on who I want." Then she gave me a high-five and off she went. Hmmm, strange, strange stuff. At least I had a hot girl "molest" me.
As a side note, there was another little thing that occurred that is worth mentioning here.
One of the three girls seemed less high-maintenance and fairly approachable, so I asked her a random question and she seemed open to talk to us. However, while my friend and I were talking to her, I began to notice that she kept scooting back half a step every so often. I kept having to lean forward to hear what she was saying before I realized what she was doing. The funny thing was that we weren't being creeps or anything like that, we were just talking. I don't know if she had some weird incidents with guys in the past, but she should have felt relieved that two good-looking, smart and non-threatening dudes were just shooting the shit with her. Oh well. It made me wonder if it was because we don't have the jock-look like the dude they were hitting on did.
No matter, onward.
A fairly good-looking guy was sitting by them and they were totally flirting with him. The usual stuff girls do to flirt is touching, giggling, leaning in close....whatever. But here is the kicker: the guy was there with a date who seemed weirded out by these girls flirting with her man!
So, here is what I concluded from the situation. These girls, although nothing special, felt the need to flirt with this girl's man just to show they can take attention away from her and put it on themselves. Attention is the life-force for females. They need it to survive. They will do anything to get it and will always want more. This trio of girls actually made me think less of them for what they were doing. It was really disgusting. The guy was some jock-looking guy who probably didn't have much behind the eyeballs, so he was clueless while his girl was getting pissed.
One little nugget that involved me was when she got up to use the restroom, I asked her why those girls are all over her dude. She pressed up against me, grabbed my ass and said, "That just means I can rub up on who I want." Then she gave me a high-five and off she went. Hmmm, strange, strange stuff. At least I had a hot girl "molest" me.
As a side note, there was another little thing that occurred that is worth mentioning here.
One of the three girls seemed less high-maintenance and fairly approachable, so I asked her a random question and she seemed open to talk to us. However, while my friend and I were talking to her, I began to notice that she kept scooting back half a step every so often. I kept having to lean forward to hear what she was saying before I realized what she was doing. The funny thing was that we weren't being creeps or anything like that, we were just talking. I don't know if she had some weird incidents with guys in the past, but she should have felt relieved that two good-looking, smart and non-threatening dudes were just shooting the shit with her. Oh well. It made me wonder if it was because we don't have the jock-look like the dude they were hitting on did.
No matter, onward.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Come one, come all!
At the request of a friend, I have enabled anonymous comment posting. Sorry it took so long, but I am a little new to this blogging stuff. So don't feel the need to hide anymore. Let's hear those comments!!!!!!!
Confusion
I have noticed, in my nightly "hunts", that there are a large amount of girls who go out with their girlfriends and get all glammed up, but want nothing to do with anyone who tries to start a decent conversation with them!!
I am very confused by this. As you know, I live in a new area now and what I have been able to discern from the few weeks that I have lived is this:
There are more BITCHES here than where I used to live!!!!!
Now, I mean that in the most non-demeaning way I can. The fact is that most of the girls I have encountered the last few weeks have been very short, venomous (yes, venomous!!!) and standoffish. Why would a girl get all done up and go out to a place where PEOPLE MEET if she wants nothing to do with anyone who will inevitably try to talk to her. I understand the whole "I'm hanging with my friends....girls night out" stuff, BUT COME ON!!!
I have run into this where I used to live, but it seemed to happen less.
My only conclusion on the matter is that I KNEW the spots that were more chill in my previous locale. I just need to find places like that here. I'm just tapping the wrong resources right now. No matter, tomorrow's a new day.
I am very confused by this. As you know, I live in a new area now and what I have been able to discern from the few weeks that I have lived is this:
There are more BITCHES here than where I used to live!!!!!
Now, I mean that in the most non-demeaning way I can. The fact is that most of the girls I have encountered the last few weeks have been very short, venomous (yes, venomous!!!) and standoffish. Why would a girl get all done up and go out to a place where PEOPLE MEET if she wants nothing to do with anyone who will inevitably try to talk to her. I understand the whole "I'm hanging with my friends....girls night out" stuff, BUT COME ON!!!
I have run into this where I used to live, but it seemed to happen less.
My only conclusion on the matter is that I KNEW the spots that were more chill in my previous locale. I just need to find places like that here. I'm just tapping the wrong resources right now. No matter, tomorrow's a new day.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Funny because it's true
One of my favorite shows of all time is SEINFELD. Here is a funny clip that resonates pretty well with me.
Enjoy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ysw3QZIBzMo&feature=related
Enjoy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ysw3QZIBzMo&feature=related
Friday, September 11, 2009
One at a time?!
A few of my friends (guys) have pointed out to me that the way I am dating is NOT the norm. I have to agree. Usually, a person would date one person at a time until things run their course, then move on. Although I have nothing against this "normal" type of dating, there seems to be pros and cons for both dating techniques.
Dating one person at a time:
Pros:
1) Only one person in your life (intimacy)
2) A feeling of "being centered"
3) Focus of intent and outcome
Cons:
1) Only one person in your life. (yes, this could be considered a CON)
2) Might become serious sooner than you may want.
3) No backup plan
4) Attachment
Dating multiple people:
Pros:
1) Options on who to see and when
2) Less attachment if things don't work out
3) Variety
Cons:
1) Lack of intimacy ("just body parts rubbing together")
2) Unending feeling of urgency (I need more numbers)
Well, that is my point of view on it. I know that the multiple dating thing is not for everyone, but it serves its purpose until that "ONE" comes along. As stated in the last post, I'm only seeing one person at the moment. Unfortunately, I don't see it going anywhere serious. We have fun together, but that's about it. I'm going to have "the talk" with her about my thoughts on us dating because I think she is more into it than I am. I'll let you know how that goes.
Dating one person at a time:
Pros:
1) Only one person in your life (intimacy)
2) A feeling of "being centered"
3) Focus of intent and outcome
Cons:
1) Only one person in your life. (yes, this could be considered a CON)
2) Might become serious sooner than you may want.
3) No backup plan
4) Attachment
Dating multiple people:
Pros:
1) Options on who to see and when
2) Less attachment if things don't work out
3) Variety
Cons:
1) Lack of intimacy ("just body parts rubbing together")
2) Unending feeling of urgency (I need more numbers)
Well, that is my point of view on it. I know that the multiple dating thing is not for everyone, but it serves its purpose until that "ONE" comes along. As stated in the last post, I'm only seeing one person at the moment. Unfortunately, I don't see it going anywhere serious. We have fun together, but that's about it. I'm going to have "the talk" with her about my thoughts on us dating because I think she is more into it than I am. I'll let you know how that goes.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Slump
As you may have guessed by the lack of entries, there is a bit of a slump happening. I'm only going out with one girl at the moment, but it seems that I haven't been able to close the number deal with the girls I talk to when I'm out. It hasn't really gotten to the point where I feel they're interested enough to warrant asking for their number. I've been able to do conversations, for the most part (some girls are just bitches), but I don't feel a reciprocation of interest on their part. To be honest, my mind has been elsewhere. I've been busy with the new place and also with trying to get some professional stuff moving ahead.
So, it is just a short period to get through. I also feel a little awkward when I go out solo still...out of my element without the wingman. Oh well. Things'll pick up; not just with the women, but with every other aspect of life for me.......I hope.
So, it is just a short period to get through. I also feel a little awkward when I go out solo still...out of my element without the wingman. Oh well. Things'll pick up; not just with the women, but with every other aspect of life for me.......I hope.
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