Epiphany

So I ended my last relationship, which lasted 2 years, at the end of 2008 and I was ready to start playing the field at the beginning of 2009. However, it wasn't until I met a friend who opened my eyes with something so simple about dating it would completely turn my life around. Of course I was skeptical.

Basically, it is this:

1) If the girl is into you, you can't say anything wrong. (within common sense)
2) If the girl is not into you, you can't say anything right.

THE END

So, what does that mean? Simple. When I talk to a girl, I have to be extremely attentive to her body language, tone of voice, eye-contact and willingness to continue the conversation. This all has to click within the first 30-60 seconds for it to be 100% successful, but there are exceptions. So many times do I see guys in bars talking to girls that are almost falling over from leaning AWAY from the dude. That, my friends, is a huge sign that she isn't interested. Also, if you are talking to her and she looks away from you any chance she gets, guess what....she's done.

So how do I go about this "method"? I always start by noticing something about them: piercings, accessories, hairstyle...whatever. Anything to get them talking. Then I follow with a question about it, then another, and so on. By the way, short answers are bad because she is not engaging you.

So when does it seem suitable to go for the dreaded "can I have your number" line? Well, if she's been talking with you for OVER 5 minutes and none of the problems listed above have occurred, then you are made in the shade.

All of the above is exactly what my friend told me in the beginning of the year and now I am saying it here because I have lived it. AND IT ABSOLUTELY WORKS. In fact, my friend is now saying that he has "created a monster" and that he can't believe I had trouble in this area before. I take that as a compliment.

It's funny when I step back and assess the change in me. If someone were to come up to me a year ago and say, "Hey! In one year you will be going out with 4 different girls in one week", I would have laughed so hard I'd die. Well, that is EXACTLY what is happening!! In fact, it was at the suggestion of that friend that I started this blog because I have a new story to tell every time we talk.

Now that all of the "prologue" stuff is on the table, I will start with my exploits in the next post. Stay tuned!!