As many readers have probably experienced, ex-girlfriends seem to find their way back into your life...one way or another. I am of the belief that if you try to remain friends with an ex, it serves only one of two options:
1) They want you back.
2) You want them back.
And it rarely ends well.
So, why am I writing about this? Because two of my ex's came back into my life at the exact same time! And yes, I had sex with both of them, not at the same time, but within the same week....for about a month and a half!
In hindsight, I somewhat regret the situation because both option 1 and 2 were occurring. I wanted to just hang out with one of them, but she wanted to get back together. I still had strong feelings with the other one, but she wouldn't have it. By the way, there was no dating going on here. It was simply "want to see a movie?", "sure"...then 2 hours later, I'm doing her doggie-style. Don't get me wrong, I did enjoy the amount of sex I was getting, but at what cost? I was hurting one girl on one hand and hurting myself with the other girl on the other.
How did I deal with it, you ask? Well, I came to the conclusion that it won't work out and I didn't want this drama in my life. So, I stopped all contact with the one that was causing me pain and I cooled things off with the other one. It was a tough choice. I loved hanging out with both of them, but I knew my overall attitude and "game" would suffer from this distraction. Remember, if you look back, you'll trip over what's ahead of you.
Well, I apologize if this post is all mushy and shit, but it is an important point to hit on in bachelorhood. We all have these types of scenarios pop up here and there and my only advice comes from learning the hard way.
CUT OFF ALL TIES TO EX'S AFTER THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER!!!! None of this "can we stay friends" horse shit!!
Stay tuned!
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I'm not really sure that a post with the sentence, "then 2 hours later, I'm doing her doggie-style" can be considered in any way mushy, BUT aside from that...I pretty much agree with everything. I always tell my girlfriends that they're crazy to try to be friends with their exes. It never lets anything really heal or move on.
ReplyDeleteAlso..props for not even waiting around for your karma to find you, but for immediately fucking yourself over in the process. Takes balls. I like that. haha.
Thanks GMB. I admit that this was among the three hardest decisions I've ever had to make.
ReplyDeleteYou can call me Alecia - I'm the author of "Boobies" on datingisweird - that's how I found you. :)
ReplyDeleteNone of this "can we stay friends" horse shit!!
ReplyDeleteGood stuff