I have found that the more I do the "serial dating" thing, the more I wonder, "Am I happy with this?" Well, it is definitely fun. Meeting new people and not having to be burdened by the "Where are you? Who are you with?" crap that some girlfriends do is a relief. However, I have admitted to some close friends that I am finding myself wanting ONE woman to devote ALL of my attention to. Yup, that's right. ONE WOMAN!!
Here is a little insight into the male psyche. Most men, not all, are horny motherfucking assholes. It comes from having a penis and testicles. Ejaculating is a bodily function no different than urinating. I am not lecturing here, but it is a fact that men have a buildup of fluid that MUST be released; whether by masturbating (with or without the help of porn, which some girls are threatened by, but is only the means to an end), or finding someone who will "help them out". Unfortunately, it is how men are hardwired, both mentally and physically. I know plenty of women who masturbate on a daily basis, but the drive is COMPLETELY different from that of a man. I'm not a woman, so I won't get into it, but I will say that the only purpose of ejaculation is to produce sperm or seed or jizz....whatever you want to call it. Men are obsessed with it because it is the life force. It is the flame for procreation.
I don't go out on dates thinking, "When do we get to fuck?" I go out to see if the chick is cool and if it leads to sex, then cool. I also admit that obviously I only ask out girls that I am attracted to, so yeah I think about banging them, but it isn't the first thing on my mind. You've seen my profile, I am in my early thirties and something changes in a man when he reaches these different decades of life. The twenties are the "let's fuck" years, the thirties are the "I'd like to find someone special" years, and forties are "oh fuck, I'm an old bastard" years. I had to throw that in, sorry.
I am dating a lot of women right now for a couple of reasons:
1. I need to relax and have fun for once. Just go with the flow and don't commit too quickly.
2. Dating more women will present more opportunities to find that special someone.
3. I like meeting all kinds of girls with this new method of dating and asking girls out. IT'S FUN & HEALTHY!
4. I'm a horndog. It's true.
5. This will come off bad, but I can't get serious unless I know what a girl is like in bed.
Let me expand on that last one. There are those guys and girls out there who want their first time to be on their wedding night. I'm not like that. I enjoy learning all about their sexuality while I am learning about their emotions and mind. It really is a whole package (for me anyways). With that said, I will point back to my previous post, The Thumb-Sucking Nympho. Even though she is great sexually, the girl is a mess emotionally and mentally. So I can't carry on a relationship with that. If I am really into a girl's mind and emotions, but the sex is so-so, I'd give it a serious chance. I'd communicate about what we can work on and I would listen to what she needs too. This comes from experience and my age as well. I have fucked up my share of relationships by not communicating or listening. We all have. Learning through mistakes is a part of life.
So what is this rant all about? Well, I just wanted to clear the air about what my motives are. Of course I want to find the one. Who doesn't? I don't want to be in my fifties and playing the field. (That reminds me of a part in the Wedding Singer) I am also in the moving process, so geographically, it would be difficult to commit to someone at this point. Once settled, I welcome a girlfriend who I can give all my attention to, but for now I am dating to see what I really am looking for in a woman. I have an idea, but does that exist? I'll hopefully find out.....sooner than later.
This also could be a case of "the grass is always greener", but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.
I'm leaving out the "sign off" for now until something good comes along. No need to embarrass myself.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
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None of this was satisfying to me. I guess there lies the basic differences between man and woman, how we think and feel and approach these situations. I just don't like the way you think--which probably isn't too far from the rest of the male population.
ReplyDeleteThis is why women grown bitter.
Well, Alecia, I do have to admit that women do this all the time too. In fact, this whole journey I'm on is kind of the result of my latest ex (I don't mean that as I'm taking revenge on females). I am just being honest. Remember, a lot of these women stop calling/texting me first. I haven't humped and dumped any of them....except for the thumb-sucker.
ReplyDeleteWhat part of how I think do you not like exactly? I am not an arrogant male chauvinist by any means.
I guess maybe because I'm not like that. I'm not a woman who "humps and dumps"; in fact, if I had my way all my humping would be done in a fulfilling, meaningful relationship. It's just not something I can wrap my mind around. I don't look at every guy and immediately wonder what they look like naked, or how they'd feel on top of me. I don't actually know within five minutes if I'd fuck someone or not. (unless there is just something utterly repulsing about them) personality plays a giant role. You can be physically attracted to a lot of people, but that doesn't mean giving out lays like you're standing in line at a Hawaiian airport. Ya know? It's just seriously hard for me to comprehend how people, men or women just "hump and dump". It's so easy to get yourself off...in fact, sometimes, it's even better.
ReplyDeleteI don't like to date. I don't date to just date. But that's just me.
I agree with you 100%. To quote a very good friend of mine, "Without the emotional connection, it's just body parts rubbing together." And it is absolutely true. The BEST sex I have ever had was with a person I loved with all of my heart. Unfortunately, it didn't last. I can tell you that my attraction to a girl diminishes once she acts bitchy, lame or any of that. There are girls that I was so hot for, but when they'd talk, I'd want to jump off a building!!
ReplyDeleteI like your passion, Alecia!!!!
Thank you! :)
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